It is easy to resort to being passive aggressive or overly aggressive when trying to handle anger or frustration. More often than not, dealing with anger the wrong way can negatively impact your relationship with loved ones. The key to lasting relationships is to communicate anger without coming off as hostile or passive aggressive. Here are some tools that will help with your approach in communicating anger:
- Becoming self-aware – It is harder to think logically when you’re angry so step back and cool down before confronting an issue
- Understanding your emotion – Sometimes it is easy to confuse anger with other emotions such as frustration, sadness, or hurt. It is important to gain perspective on the emotion you are feeling and communicate that instead
- Blaming the wrong people – Try not to take your anger out on the wrong person. Try to figure out what the underlying emotion is so not to misplace any blame
- Being compassionate – Approach the other person with respect and be sure to try to see their perspective as well
- Actively engaging – Share your point of view and listen to others’ perspective as well. Compromise can only be achieved if both parties participate
Anger is often perceived as a negative emotion, but it is meant to communicate an important feeling. However, it is crucial to do it in a way that does not turn away people, so that they are more open to what you want them to hear. Try to avoid aggressive confrontation or passive-aggressive language – find a balance and you will discover that it is attainable to communicate anger without coming off as offensive or hostile.
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