Living with Regret
Thinking You’re a Failure
We discussed comparisons and how social media plays a big role in keeping us feeling inadequate. Often, we minimize the difficult circumstances we’ve been through and only focus on the negatives or the shoulda, coulda, woulda’s of life. This mindset may have begun when you were a child – not being as smart as your sister, or as athletic as your brother. In adulthood, it manifests as getting divorced, losing a job, not graduating from college, having too much debt, and so on. Once this “failure mindset” begins, it’s a hard habit to shake loose from. You may find yourself procrastinating on purpose, or being a perfectionist, or even being careless on the job. Step one to overcoming this mindset is to realize you have one! Step two is: Don’t believe you’re a failure! Recognize that each opportunity presented to you is a fresh start and a new chance to learn from your past mistakes and act differently.